Apology Accepted, Cam. Your turn now, DJT.

We had our first child eight years ago, Gwendolyn, and I remember how excited (read: terrified) I was about being a first-time dad. During a family gathering, I had my daughter strapped to my chest and in the middle of a conversation with my mother and sister, a rank odor floated out of my precious newborn, so I began to talk with them about the best way to change her dookie-dump.  First thing they did was laugh and say how funny it was to hear their 6’4” macho son/brother talk about diaper changing strategies.

Because given our family, it WAS funny.

My father is from a generation consisting of diaper-fearing cave men, so the idea that a modern man would actually show interest in a previously female chore made two of the women in my family crack up in my face.

Unapologetically, I might add.

So when I read what Cam Newton had said to a female reporter, about how it was “funny to hear a female talk about routes”, the first thing I thought to myself was, yeah, that is kinda funny.  My whole life I’ve been trying to get the women I’ve coupled with to show an interest, ANY interest, in one of my favorite professional sports, and not once did any of them ever try to love the NFL.

So when one finally does, it’s kinda funny.

Not ‘how dare this woman think she can understand a man’s game’ funny, but more of a ‘wow, you’re the first woman I’ve ever heard use the phrase ‘truck-sticking’ at all, let alone correctly, and it surprised the crap out of me’ funny.

Men changing diapers, women understanding football, these types of advances ARE funny, along with being essential to our society’s sexual evolution, because they are pleasantly unexpected, and the surprise of seeing the opposite of what you have come to expect is the very core of what is humorous.

But apparently not to SOME feminists.

Cam got hammered in yesterday’s news cycle, and as a result has lost valuable sponsorships (read: big $), and the TV talking heads jumped all over this poor guy.

So what did this filthy rich jock, this ‘sickening’ and ‘sexist’ animal do next?

He apologized.

Watch the video.  It was the most sincere, heartfelt, perfectly unscripted and well-worded apology I’ve ever heard, and trust me, I know – I’m married, so I’ve had to make plenty of them.

“I’m a man who tries to be a positive role model in my community and tries to use my platform to inspire others. And I…take ownership to everything that comes with that.  And what I did was extremely unacceptable.”

Take note, fellow wrong-doers, that’s how an apology is done.

Which brings me to my final point – why is this athlete setting a better example than our president?  How is it that, when it comes to apologies and personal accountability for unacceptable words toward women, this 28-year-old just executed a perfect slant route past the 66-year-old leader of the free world?

If you were looking for someone to shame in this situation, SOME feminists, look no further than DJT.

Notice he didn’t tweet a single word about Cam’s faux pas, not even a

Shameful what some ungrateful millionaires will say about women.  Sad.  #grabherpussyinstead.

What Cam said was regrettable but somewhat understandable.  What DJT said was unacceptable and borderline criminal, yet there he is in the White House, our PGIC .  And not one of us expects to hear an apology from Trump for those words, ever.  His followers voted him in so apparently they are fine without one, but God help Cam Newton if he were to have done the same.  When athletes are held to a higher standard than the American President, we all need to take a good look, because THAT is funny.

On a final note, my sister and my mother have yet to issue me a formal apology regarding diaper-gate 2009, not because they’re against that kind of thing, but because it was a total non-issue and no sponsorships were lost.  As my eight-year-old daughter grows into a woman, sadly plenty of guys she’ll date will do her wrong.  But I’m hoping, praying, that every time it happens, she’ll understand the fundamental difference between a man like Cam Newton and a little boy like DJT.

Mike Lukas

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  1. Michael, I will apologize for perhaps being one of the sisters who laughed at the idea of you changing a diaper if you apologize for the following actions, which may have contributed to me being a shy, timid female who never leaves the house.

    1. Making me put Ben-Gay on my eyelids when I was 9.
    2. Giving me a wedgie—-nay, picking me up by the back of my underwear until it ripped when I was 7. Right in front of my best friend Allison, I might add.
    3. Telling me you’d be right back, but that while I was waiting for you I should hold a pot on my head and bang the pot with my other hand and say “I am Johnny Appleseed. I am Johnny Appleseed.” I did that for 5-10 minutes only to find out you’d gone out for the evening and weren’t coming back any time soon. So I quietly put the pot back in the cupboard.

    What a jerk. Sniff sniff.

    Wait a second, maybe all this torture is what made me NOT shy and timid, but feisty and strong! And maybe these kinds of antics are exactly what big brothers are SUPPOSED to do to their little sisters, but WE all grow out of it. Yet somehow a 66-year old man hasn’t grown out of doing/saying much, much worse to/about women? And yet he was elected?!? Yeah, I don’t get it either.

    It really is sad when a football player suffers greater consequences (even after apologizing) than our POTUS did/does (even after NEVER apologizing).

    Well done, big brother of mine.

    And I’m so glad we are past the BenGay-Wedgie-JohnAppleseed phase of our life.

    But I still want to laugh thinking about you changing a diaper.

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  2. I don’t think it’s ‘funny’ that a women can have a career in sports reporting, that men can be equal parents, or that POTUS can be a menace to minorities. Not funny at all. I’d use other words to describe the way I feel about those things in an effort to express myself well. I think it’s inspiring and when women enter into male dominated fields and I hope that Cam continues to inspire his followers to follow their dreams just like he did.

    (Sidenote: I’ve come from your post about “Whataboutism’ to this which is, funnily enough, a whatabout DJT post.)

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    1. ‘Funny’ is a subjective concept, but I was quite clear about how I was interpreting it: “Not ‘how dare this woman think she can understand a man’s game’ funny, but more of a ‘wow, you’re the first woman I’ve ever heard use the phrase ‘truck-sticking’ at all, let alone correctly, and it surprised the crap out of me’ funny.

      “Men changing diapers, women understanding football, these types of advances ARE funny, along with being essential to our society’s sexual evolution, because they are pleasantly unexpected, and the surprise of seeing the opposite of what you have come to expect is the very core of what is humorous.”

      Also,

      This wasn’t a whatabout DJT post. The whole purpose of the comparison was not to distract from Cam’s faux pas, which is what a whatabout does, but to make this important point:

      “When athletes are held to a higher standard than the American President, we all need to take a good look, because THAT is funny.”

      At any rate, thanks for reading and commenting – your feedback is important.

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